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Why it’s ok to start again in life

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Life is so unpredictable at times, which is why today’s post is all about why it’s ok to start again in life. This can be applied to so many different aspects of life. From career changes to just simply how you want to live your life.

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I remember being at secondary school and being asked at the tender age of 14 what I wanted to do when I left school. The simple answer was, I just didn’t know. I was way to young to be making such a big decision. In the end, I chose the subjects that I was good idea, thinking that some good grades are better than none. I then left school and went into the real world. I soon soared at what I chose to do and learnt so many life lessons along the way.

About four years ago, I decided that the path I was on no longer suited me. I used to dread every work day and knew I needed to make a change. Starting again with my working life was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. Choosing a different sector really pushed me to my limits but thankfully it paid off. I now have a job that I love whilst at the same time being able to work part time on content creation.

I recently made a huge change in my general life too by choosing to move back home to live. For me right now, it’s the best decision but it doesn’t mean it was easy. There were a few people that turned their nose up at my decision. However, ultimately I needed to do what is right for me, which is why I know it’s ok to start again in life.

Through this journey, I have picked up so many valuable tips that I thought I would share with you. Even if you aren’t planning on starting again right now, I hope you will read them and store them in your mind for the future. You never know when you may suddenly need to start again, I certainly didn’t.

My tips for you:

  • Have an emergency fund constantly building. You never know when you might need to use it and no I don’t mean to pick up a coffee.
  • Think about your strengths and weaknesses. Is there a way you can improve on things? Maybe do a course or make changes to your routines.
  • Make sure you are organised with the essentials in life. Do you know where your birth certificate and passport are at the drop of a hat?
  • Make sure you have a great support system around you. Even if its just to make you smile when you’re struggling. This doesn’t have to be in person, it could be friends you speak to on the internet.
  • Pool your resources. If you have friends or family that may be able to help you in some way, use them. Don’t be ashamed, they will probably just be happy they could help you.
  • Write down the pros and cons before you take the plunge. Try to have every base covered where possible so that it’s not such a huge panic.

Create mini goals to help you achieve your main goal

This is my top tip which is why I wanted it to have its own section. Think of your main goal, the thing that you really want to achieve by starting again. That could be you want more family time or you want to change your career entirely. Maybe you want to relocate your life to a different place.

Once you have the goal in mind and you’ve taken into account the tips I’ve mentioned above, now think of how you are going to get there. These are your mini goals. It could be something as simple as speaking to your boss about reducing hours. Or looking at local college courses available to you. Maybe you need to research further an area you want to move to.

Final Thoughts

I hope these tips have helped you in some way and shown you why it’s ok to start again in life. Growing up, I was always told that by late twenties, you should have your life sorted. The career, the partner, the lifestyle should all be in place so that by thirty, you were ready to settle down. But life really doesn’t work like that anymore. You don’t have to have your shit together by a certain age. It’s ok to suddenly want something different, no matter what your age. And it’s ok to start again in life, in anyway you choose to.

One thing I have really learnt this year is that there will always be people who will judge you. However, more importantly, there will also always be people who will support you. So make a stand and put yourself first. Do what you want to. We only have one life and it is scarily short, so reach out and grab it with both hands and enjoy the ride.

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21 responses to “Why it’s ok to start again in life”

  2. Hi Kelly,

    What an excellent post!

    I think you basically summed it up with “ultimately I needed to do what is right for me” – this is such an important point. You live your life for you, not for others.

    And who the hell knows, as a schoolchild, what they want to be in later life? Yes, if Manchester City FC scouted you at the age of 12 there is a good chance that you will want to be a footballer but people like that are a tiny minority. Its a ridiculous question for the majority.

    I hope that things work out well for you – I’m sure that they will, you seem to have your head screwed on right!

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  4. We can definitely start again in life at any point and it’s great to see your tips and advice about how to do that with a bit of organization/safety. I think living our lives in a way that feels right for us is so important (but possibly underrated). There is no point doing something or being on a journey that we hate or is toxic, etc. — great post!

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  6. Loved this post as it is very inline with how I live my life. We can start again at any moment, which is sometimes hard to remember. I do like you tips, as they can help people make that decision with less anxiety. I’m a plunge first and then see what happens, kind of person. So I liked your tip about first lookig and the pros and cons. I do that might flight. The emergency fund is also a good one. But at the end of the day, I think it’s about following your instinct. Your feeling, if we listen carefully, will tell us what is right to do.Thanks for sharing your journey with us.

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  8. Building an emergancy fund is definitely a smart idea! It’s always useful to have a safety net, and it’s so important to do something you enjoy. I am glad you are doing that now x

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  11. Excellent post Kelly. I thought I was heading in one direction and then diverted in my 20’s to another and then in my 30’s decided it wasn’t for me. I’ve gone back to university for the 2nd time to study something I love. It’s okay to start again, just learn from what you’ve already done.

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  15. I absolutely agree, Kelly. Life is too short to be worried about what other people think. Better to do what you need to to support yourself, since people will judge anyway. These are really great tips for starting over in life. Thanks for sharing.

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  16. Love the positivity in this! It’s never too late to try and different direction, and I think it’s always worth taking the risk if there’s something you’re really keen to do.

    Mini goals to get there is a great idea, as is an emergency fund to give you the freedom to experiment! Thanks for sharing.

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  18. I’m in my (almost) late 30s and am finally coming into my own. It really is never too late. Thanks for all the tips!

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