*Untamed by Glennon Doyle is a guest post
Untamed by Glennon Doyle sold over a million copies in the first 20 weeks, made the best-seller list in the New York Times and is endorsed by the vulnerability guru – Brene Brown. The memoir describes the author’s struggles and discoveries to gain self-confidence and self-worth. As I review the book, I’m also going to reference how this supports self-care, a topic I am deeply interested in.
Brene Brown’s incredible research on vulnerability highlights how taking risks and opportunity can create moments to learn who we are. Untamed takes the reader on a tour of Doyle’s self-discovery featuring her vulnerabilities.
Untamed simply ends with the words ‘I am’. The 328 pages explore what these 2 words mean. When you are asked, are you happy, brave, or wrong? What is the first thing that pops into your head? What flurry of emotions do you feel? Would you ever answer with “I am”? I can honestly say I have not once thought ‘I am’. It would feel unnatural and yet, I’m motivated by what that would mean. To be completely content and open with life’s ups and downs with only me at the driving seat. I believe Untamed explores how to enable ourselves in accepting everything about ourselves, thus giving us the energy to be how we want to be.
I feel Untamed is written for women. Doyle offers insights on how girls are parented, for example, she explains how girls are encouraged to please others, which takes a significant amount of energy to keep up. “This is why we live hungry” p24. Do we hide our truth to make others feel comfortable? It’s a great question to reflect on how this impacts our self-care. For instance, do we spend our energy on meeting the expectations of others or ourselves? Equally important, does our emotional wellbeing rely on feeling validated and accepted?
Untamed is very frank and to the point and comes across noticeably confident. She fiercely writes about her unconditional love and acceptance for her children. I paused many times to gather my thoughts as she explores how to find a life that is true for oneself. There is a poignant chapter, where Doyle describes the critical moments of change and having to have honest conversations with her children. I can imagine, like me, this resonating with her readers. Do we stick with what we know, or do we adapt for a more fulfilling life?
Throughout the memoir, Doyle challenges the readers to reflect on their own emotions, intuition, imagination, and courage, to unlock their true self. She does this by highlighting her own struggles and how it feels when you begin to take ownership of yourself. To accept all of you is a responsibility that she explains wonderfully. Untamed offers strategies to help maintain the concept of self through mindfulness. For example, being still and what she calls ‘knowing’ is to look within to find the answers.
“When my body tells me the truth, I’ll believe it” p324
What I found extremely powerful was accepting the feelings at any given time. For example, feeling exhausted, terrified, or angry is ok. Those feelings or thoughts are communicating something. It’s permitting yourself to stick with those feelings and thoughts to learn from them. I feel like I must wear a happy mask all the time. When I feel glum, I feel the pressure to snap out of it. Untamed helps to put this into perspective, challenging the reader to do what is right by them.
The chapters are short which is a bonus for anyone who is busy. The messages are clear, written with passion and honesty. I can understand why over a million copies were sold in such a short period. If you are seeking to learn something new about yourself or if you are interested in other people’s psyche, then Untamed would be right up your street.
About The Author
“I am” – enthusiastic and passionate about caring for children and young people. I have spent 22 years working in children services as a youth worker, youth theatre director and now a trainer. As a professional, we use evidence-based research to shape our practice. So, by the time I had my 2 sons, I wanted to use parenting strategies that were also based on scientific and psychological evidence. I never thought I’d be a blogger; however, I created a space to explore child development and attachment parenting as I clamber through daily situations. You can check out my work on http://raising2children.com/
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